All for one…

Some of you may have experienced the challenge of moving to a new place where you don’t know anyone. Living somewhere you are unfamiliar with . Starting a new job where everyone is a stranger. Very hard as an adult. Now imagine doing that as a child.
Oh yes and let’s throw in as well that you won’t see certain members of your birth family again. Icing on the cake is you get a totally new surname as well. Now I know most adults would not cope with that.
Of course our three do not always “cope” with this either. They have times where this is all too much for their little brains. They have been with us for a year now so things are more familiar now. They have friends. School and nursery are places they enjoy. They have spent lots of time with “new” family members.
I have to say that I still remain amazed by the resilience they show in terms of coping with change. Of course some of this is a result of what they have been through. They have been so used to change they have bought the t shirt. Puts to shame those people at work that moan about changing some minor aspect of what they do. It’s heartbreaking in a way how they roll with it all.
Recently with my wife’s return to work they have had to spend time at a childminder after school and nursery. Apart from the tiredness and fractiousness that goes with it, they have managed this with ease. As if we had just asked them to sit down or eat. The childminder has joined the long list of people threatening to kidnap them as well. They seem to have this effect on people. Lost count of times members of public comment on their positive behaviour. This is in spite of the change they have been through not because of it.
Much of their strength comes from the fact they have a strong sibling bond and have been kept together. They have heir fights and squabbles but they are so close. They run and hug each other when they have been parted for a matter of hours. They have all been through dark times together and that has forged that togetherness.They are a package and the thought they could have been separated is hard to imagine. The sibling bond is of course the most enduring bond we have. These guys hammer home the point that we should cherish our brothers and sisters however much of a pain they can be.
Time to give my three musketeers a hug……..